There is a lot of stuff about Noah I won’t write. It’s complicated why. He says that he feels like he shouldn’t write it if I have chosen not to write it and I think that’s silly.
There are ways I don’t write about Noah because doing so would make him a supporting character in my story who was failing to live up to expectations. That’s not who or what he is though. He is a main character who is choosing to live with me. I don’t know how to write his story as it deserves to be written.
Part of the reason I don’t write more about him is because I would misattribute his actions all the time and I don’t want to do that.
I would paraphrase and misremember and go in a whole different direction and create a character for me to be at odds with.
I don’t want to do that. I do not want to take away Noah’s right to define himself and I think if I did substantially more writing about him… I would kinda do that to him. That would be wrong.
I asked him if he feels he knows everything about me. He shook his head emphatically–no. I asked him if he feels I know everything about him. He said not quite everything… but basically.
I have to believe he is wrong. That is very important. I have to believe I don’t know everything.
Because whatever it is I know so far… he’s going to change. People do. He will make new stories and if I file him away as a supportive character and I already know his backstory so whatever…
No. That’s just not going to work.
Our conversations hurt right now. In that way that growth and change hurt. I’m trying to see which words from this conversation are going to stick in my head. I’m not going to write down the one I’m trying to not remember.
Boundaries have shifted all over the place. That means things feel very unpredictable and that’s scary. Yes. That’s true.
I have two very busy weekends in a row. Which was rather rude of me to schedule. But I really and truly cannot express how deep this hunger goes.
Let’s see how I feel after that. I’ll probably have a better idea of what I need. I know that this is not sustainable.
But I’m going to explode.
I am very not sure I am going to be able to talk any one person into hitting me the way I want to be hit right now. These are all newish play experiences. They don’t know me as a bottom so they don’t really trust what they can do. I have to respect that tops have their own limits. (I’m not sure I could deliver a first time scene to someone at the intensity level I want so I’m not mad at anyone. It’s fucking hard to trust someone like that. Topping is risky in a way bottoming isn’t.) So I’m kinda hanging my hopes on a culmination of pain. Please oh please let me get hurt enough.
I saw a doctor yesterday for std checking. She was adorable. I love Planned Parenthood doctors. She was very curious about the bruises on my breasts (of course starting with worried) and I said, “Don’t worry. I had to ask nicely to get that bruise.” She looked startled. “Wait, what?”
“I’m a masochist. I had to ask one of my slutty friends very very very very nicely to get that bruise.”
She laughed. “I can’t believe you call them your slutty friends.”
“Well, at some point it is truth in advertising.”
She laughed more.
She’s thrilled I come in often for checks when I’m active. Come on back. She agreed that sterilization sounds wise but they don’t do that. I’m looking into options near me.
It would be somewhat hilarious to do a gofundme “Do you want to ensure that Krissy never gets pregnant again so that she can be alive long enough to fuck *you*?”
I’m kidding. I’ll pay for it. But it’s funny in my head.
I feel really mean. I feel like I should just go back to monogamy and decide that it is good enough.
But I can’t. I hit a wall. This isn’t enough and it is making me crazy. It’s not enough. I feel like a selfish fucking asshole.
Noah is not enough.
I’m feeling almost giddy at all the possibilities that are available to me right now. All of the things I love to do that Noah… doesn’t even know I’ve done. That isn’t part of who he sees me as.
He sees me as someone to be available for the things he likes.
But I have so many other likes.
Noah is relatively simple and I am fucktastically complex. That’s hard. Well he wanted a crazy girl for excitement.
I made a tiny bit of progress on tile yesterday. I’ll do more today.
Oh! Tile is here. I should email the folks who said they could help. Not 100% of it arrived, but most of it. Enough that I could finish the tree if they were taken of the backing.
Right now I’m working on spring. It’s perty. Grass and flowers.
I’m sorry Noah. I wish I could be just the supportive character of your dreams. I really can’t. I am so many things. Just you wait and see. I don’t want to leave. I mean… I want to go play. But I want to come back. I want you to see these parts of me. I want you to know me. I want you to want me. I like how you want me. I like how you snuggle me to sleep night after night, year after year.
It isn’t that being with you is bad. It is that you don’t hunger to hurt me. I’m not actually angry about that. I have been seriously partnered with people who had that hunger. Notice how I’m here? I don’t want to live with that. I don’t want to live with someone who wants to hurt me that much on a regular basis. Not really.
But I do want to beard the lion in his den. Why?
Because losing is so fucking hot.