I have a lot on my mind but most of it isn’t real coherent. I’m going to spew here for a bit. 🙂
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Author Archives: Krissy Gibbs
Not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings.
A chick is going on the outing tomorrow who I am not thrilled about seeing. On one hand I feel kind of growly about having to deal with her. On the other hand seeing for myself how isolating being a parent can be I don’t want to deny her the opportunity to meet new people.
HAVING COMPASSION IS REALLY FUCKING ANNOYING.
wanna be selfish. damnit.
Dreams and being stared at.
This morning I woke up in the midst of a very cool dream about and ‘s new house. There was a secret room (that was really more like a secret wing) with all kind of nifty features. I told “How can you not find a secret room!!” She said, “No one expects a secret room.” I said, “That’s like saying ‘No one expects the Spanish Inquisition’–they bloody well should have.” It was one of those cool dreams with flying and such.
And when I got up and checked my email I had an email from a reporter wanting to come on the freak breeder outing to interview people. I responded and said that was not a good idea. I don’t want people to show up to this event and be put on the spot for being weirdos, thankyouvermuch.
Reminder! Freak Breeder outing on Saturday
Are you a parent who feels like your friends group doesn’t quite know what to do with you now? Do you feel out of place at most parenting groups? Are you trying to figure out how to meet people outside of the parties you used to attend?
For the purposes of this invitation freak is defined as: genderqueer, kinky, poly, pagan, burner, goth, punk, trans, queer, bisexual, industrial, hippy, AP, or if you just feel like you don’t quite fit in at the local mommy group. You can be any of the above or none of the above. If you think you qualify as a freak, come on down.
It doesn’t matter if your kids are 6 months old, 6 years old, or 16 years old. You are welcome if you want to meet other freaks who can empathize with how being a parent has changed your life. You can be a bio-parent, adoptive parent, or an honorary parent. If you spend a noticeable chunk of your life parenting a child you consider yours, then you count as a breeder in my book. If you choose to reject the label of breeder, that’s fine too.
Come meet other freak breeders at the Oakland Zoo on Saturday November 15th. I will be arriving at 9:30 am. I will hang out outside of the gate till 10. If you would like to go I would love an RSVP so that I know approximately how many to expect: krissy AT bigrock it’s a dot com sort of address. If you RSVP I will also send you my cell phone number so that you can potentially join up with the group in the zoo if you are running a little late.
Please pass this on! Send it to your friends! Put it on your blog! Put it on mailing lists! I hope to meet a great many new freaks in addition to seeing the ones I already know.
I should probably stop talking to people.
Every so often I notice that I have been rude a lot for a period of time. It’s sometimes hard to figure out why I am doing so. I’ve been like that a lot lately. I’ve been rather snotty or nasty to more than one person in the last couple of weeks and I don’t have a good excuse for my behavior.
I’m sorry to everyone I’ve been rude to. Most likely you don’t deserve it. I’m going to think pretty hard on my behavior for a bit and try to figure out how to ditch my bad attitude.
Thanksgiving coming
So this year I’m hosting Thanksgiving dinner. The main thing that is fussy about it is that I have no idea who will want to come. It could be anywhere from 14 people to 24 people. That’s a big difference. That’s an enormous difference in terms of food prep. And seating arrangements.
I’m looking forward to seeing the mingled shock and horror when they discover no really, I don’t own a tv. I’m going to put out board games and cards. 🙂 It’s kind of fun looking at what I should make to eat. My family hasn’t had any experience with my cooking since I started being involved with Noah and boy howdy have things changed. The man introduced me to “full fat” and it’s improved pretty much everything that I cook. 🙂
This means I have two weeks to get my house really clean. No problem. 🙂
So this is what freedom feels like.
At the very least I have two weeks of freedom. Wow. That’s pretty incredible. I am still in my Spanish classes until May if I wuss out on the translation test, but honestly they take up about 7 hours of week for class time and homework time. That’s just not hitting my radar compared to what I’ve been doing for uhm years. My job is to take care of Shanna and do at least my share of housework. If I do more than my share of housework then Noah has more free time to spend with me and he’s in a generally better mood–which is a pretty damn good trade-off in my book.
I started off this freedom by cleaning up the garage to the point where we can now put our car in it! I’m thrilled because putting Shanna in and out in the rain really blows. I also cleaned the bathtub. Today I will putz through more cleaning and laundry. I also want to do cooking and prep stuff for meals for the week because we eat better when I do that.
My projects for this week include: putting furniture together, more house cleaning [we have a lot of cobwebs, finish dusting, finish cleaning the bathroom, maybe vacuum the living room, do a real scrub down of the kitchen], read more books to Shanna, start sorting Christmas stuff [I’m so excited about Christmas this year it isn’t even funny. I’m not doing the major decorating stuff till after Thanksgiving, but I can get a head start on stuff like Christmas cards so that I don’t feel much pressure in December], and enjoy the fact that I don’t have to read anything I don’t want to read! Do you know how many years it has been since I had no pressure about what to read?! For the past five years I have always had it hanging over my head that I needed to do reading for the exams. I haven’t always done it but the pressure was always present.
That said: what books do you like that I should add to my reading list? I may read a summary online and decide oh hell no but feel free to make suggestions. 🙂 I don’t even know what is out there past the canon…
Oh! and posts I want to write: “Ok snarky bitch, here is why I use cloth diapers despite your snotty article you sent me”, “Why are some books included in the canon while others are excluded”, and “Why I’m feeling some unpleasant feelings about the constant barrage of requests for money.”
Brunch!
Due to dietary restrictions we will be going to The Original Pancake House at 39222 Fremont Blvd
Fremont, CA 94538 tomorrow! I have a final (edited) confirmation list that looks like:
[info]rightkindofme — Yes!
[info]mitrian — Yes!
[info]angelkatharine — Yes!
[info]polkamadness — Yes! (Ok, I’ll officially add you instead of just mentally adding you.)
[info]dangerpudding — Yes!
[info]jkuroda — Yes!
[info]yanijc — Yes!
[info]tshuma — Uhm… er… I’ll get back to you. Yes!
[info]bk2w — Yes!
and a tentative list of:
[info]unseelie23 — Uhm… er… I’ll get back to you.
[info]pyro_pixie_86 — Uhm… er… I’ll get back to you.
[info]noirem — Uhm… er… I’ll get back to you.
[info]ribbin — Uhm… er… I’ll get back to you.
[info]zikzak5 — Yes! (No email, but weather is looking poopy so I guess you can’t make it?)
If I get no response from the tentative people by tomorrow morning I will assume you to be a no. I will be showing up at around 9:50 because a reservation for nine people may take a while. I hope ya’ll show up pretty promptly at 10! 🙂
DONE!
Friends only because there is the implication that you aren’t supposed to share the test questions cause they might use them again some day. I’m reasonably confident no one on my friends list will ever pursue an MA in English from SJSU so I’m risking it.
Good juju
In 24 hours I take the comp exam. Then I can stop posting about it. (Well, I’ll tell ya’ll whether I pass or not.)
I would appreciate it if folks sent some good juju my way tomorrow morning. I could use it.
More study notes
20th century British lit:
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Neato!
Someone I don’t know started following me on Twitter so I browsed through her stuff and she’s got some neat stuff on etsy starting with: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=16854964
Very cool!
Post exam fun!
Whether I pass or not I will at least be on hiatus from studying for a while and that pleases me. I would like to celebrate.
On a completely different subject.
Last night I had this really hot dream about a guy I’ve been *cough* admiring. Continue reading
Very sweet.
This morning we brought apples and grapes and donuts and bagels to our local polling place cause it’s an awesome thing for people to volunteer to do. When we got back from dinner tonight they left us a thank you note. Yay!
Guess what we did today?
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Moment of clarity.
If my big, huge bitch of the day is, “It’s taken me two hours to finish booking our two week trip to New Zealand” I really need to shut the fuck up.
Ok, maybe my life isn’t so bad.
Things that are pissing me off today
The fact that making a flight reservation has taken me over an hour. I am getting really pissed off. Now I am on hold being shuffled between various Indian customer service reps who cannot understand me reading off my reservation number as I try to add a lap infant. I am really really frustrated. And after 20 minutes Travelocity told me that I have to call Air New Zealand. Now Air New Zealand is telling me they can’t do anything, Travelocity has to do it.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
And Shanna just woke up from her nap and is yelling. This took her whole goddamn nap.
Edited: I am up to 55 minutes of phone time after 40 minutes of fucking with websites. But I’m done
Second test- better?
Better?
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about etiquette
I am so bad at taking constructive criticism, but I’m keeping an open mind. Some of the feedback on the letter is very helpful and I thank you all for offering opinions when I ask for one.
One point though for the folks who are telling me not to send such an email unless prompted, you are giving me etiquette feedback, not tactfulness feedback. It’s different. I am aware that according to tradition you should not send things like this unasked for. My family won’t take this amiss though. They are well acquainted with me being extremely forward and blunt and by now they just smile and nod. Noah’s family may think this is too forward but I don’t really care as long as they get the message. I would rather they think I am a bit on the rude side than to continue sending crap I don’t want. His family doesn’t know me and in the main they don’t know him either so they send random shit. Given that I have a problem with being sent tacky shit I will send to Goodwill as soon as I unwrap it I’d rather just say this stuff up front. If it means that a few of them decide I am awful and no longer send presents that would be jim-dandy-fine as well.
But ya’ll did give me some good tips on rewriting it to sound less demanding. I appreciate that. 🙂