And it wasn’t a big deal. I went hiking with Laura in the afternoon and came home after he left. Shanna and I snuggled and played and went to sleep reasonably early. He woke me up accidentally when he got home and we talked and figured stuff out and then had the hottest sex we’ve had in years. I guess feeling competitive is good for my drive.
I’m really surprised that I’m not upset. Now that it is over with and done there is nothing to anticipate and get nervous about. What’s done is done; there’s no sense in crying over spilled milk and all that. That’s really interesting to learn.
So much for the filter…
Not too uncommon; we mention this phenomenon in Slut. I’ve found that jealousy processing is, very simply, pain processing, only on an emotional level — and the #1 rule of pain processing is “feel what you’re actually feeling, not what you expect to feel.” Unfortunately, you have to wait for the stimulus to begin before you can do that… and anticipation is very hard to process.
Possibly of interest/use: http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/DayofJealousy